Thich Nhat Hanh

“Just like our organs, our anger is part of us.  When we are angry, we have to go back to ourselves and take good care of our anger. We cannot say, ‘Go away, anger, I don’t want you.’ When you have a stomach-ache, you don’t say, ‘I don’t want you, stomach, go away.’ No, you take care of it.  In the same way, we have to embrace and take good care of our anger.”

“Just because anger or hate is present does not mean that the capacity to love and accept is not there; love is always with you.”

“When you are angry, and you suffer, please go back and inspect very deeply the content, the nature of your perceptions. If you are capable of removing the wrong perception, peace and happiness will be restored in you, and you will be able to love the other person again.”

“When you get angry with someone, please don’t pretend that you are not angry. Don’t pretend that you don’t suffer. If the other person is dear to you, then you have to confess that you are angry, and that you suffer. Tell him or her in a calm, loving way.”

“In the beginning you may not understand the nature of your anger, or why it has come to be.  But if you know how to embrace it with the energy of mindfulness, it will begin to become clear to you.”

“Anger is like a howling baby, suffering and crying.  Your anger is your baby. The baby needs his mother to embrace him. You are the mother. Embrace your baby.”

“Anger has roots in non-anger elements. It has roots in the way we live our daily life. If we take good care of everything in us, without discrimination, we prevent our negative energies from dominating. We reduce the strength of our negative seeds so that they won’t overwhelm us.”

“In a time of anger or despair, even if we feel overwhelmed, our love is still there. Our capacity to communicate, to forgive, to be compassionate is still there. You have to believe this. We are more than our anger, we are more than our suffering. We must recognize that we do have within us the capacity to love, to understand, to be  compassionate, always.”

“When we embrace anger and take good care of our anger, we obtain relief. We can look deeply into it and gain many insights. One of the first insights may be that the seed of anger in us has grown too big, and is the main cause of our misery. As we begin to see this reality, we realise that the other person, whom our anger is directed at, is only a secondary cause. The other person is not the real cause of our anger.”

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